3 Ways To Spice Up Her Questions

Welcome to the good stuff! Today's blog is about 3 specific ways to add man-to-woman tension and flirting to your interactions, off of a woman asking you questions. These methods are 1) intrigue loops, or having her guess about you, 2) giving exaggerated, playful answers, and 3) flipping the script through funny frames. Let's start with the first option. An intrigue loop, or open loop/ tension loop is any instance where you're giving a girl incomplete information. Information about what? Anything! It usually comes together as a statement about her, about yourself, or a story you're telling.

If you told a girl "you know who you really remind me of?" and she is intrigued and asks you who, it is possible to just spill the beans and tell her. In the process, though, you're missing out on a big opportunity to build attraction, compliance, and get her chasing after you in some form. It would be best to answer her with something like this, "I would tell you but I think you're just going to disagree and argue against it, so...maybe later...". You're introducing tension by not telling her what she wants to know, playfully, which will increase her desire to want to know and her desire for you. It's a form of teasing which is not often thought of as such.

So, let's imagine an answer to a girl asking "what is your name?". You can say something to the effect of "actually, I want to know, what do you think my name is? What handsome name would you give to this handsome face?". In this example, we're also adding in a cocky-funny flirt to further steer us in the right direction (if you sense that the timing is right), but you can just ask her what she thinks your name is in a plain manner. You can also add a regular flirt ( (compliment + tease) to it: "well, I secretly think that you're as imaginative as you are good-looking...maybe I'm dead wrong about that but I'd like to hear, what do you think my name is?".

The second option is giving blatantly false answers to her questions. This is also a form of teasing, as it shows that you're not taking yourself, her, or the interaction too seriously. An example, following in the same line of questioning, would be if she asks your name to tell her a name that is absolutely ridiculous, "my name is Kanye West...but some of my family just say Kane...". She knows your name isn't Kanye West and your playful reluctance to tell her makes her desire to know all the more strong.

The third option is flipping the script through fun frames. This is an option that takes a little more thought and practice to hone, because you have to first identify the meaning of the frame and then come up with a way to make it playful. The proper frames to use are frames that imply she is chasing, wanting, seeking for more of your validation in some way. You can accuse her of being a stalker, being horny and desperate, trying hard for your attention, trying to pick you up and seduce you, saying and doing awkward things because she's nervous of losing you, and anything else in that category. Notice that many women use these same frames on men; feel free to use anything that a woman has used on you before. For the very same question of what our name is, we can take it the stalker route: "so...I know it'll be a challenge for you but you promise you're not going to put my name into your "database" of guys to "spontaneously" visit from time to time, right? I mean, I appreciate the enthusiasm but that's not the best way to lock me down...". We can also take it the "female pickup" route: "So you spent all that money on a Matthew Hussey seminar and that's all you learned...godspeed out here!"

You see that for any questions a girl may ask, you can use either of these methods, making the interaction much more charged with excitement. You can also see that you can stack these methods on top of each other, for instance having her guess, answering falsely, then flipping the script before you eventually tell her what she wants to know. I implore you to tape and record your sets either audio or video-wise, and look back over it to find the spaces where you could have implemented any of these 3 tactics. Don't just copy my frames here. Study and understand what I am conveying through saying these things, then create your own. Write out a practice list and go try them; it will be just as unnerving as doing your first approach because massive progress always comes by pushing through massive fear.

Give yourself time to adapt and adjust to these new tactics and watch your game skyrocket!