The Only Kiss Routine You'll Ever Need

Today, you'll learn how to make girls chase and work for a kiss from you. But first, let's discuss the background of flipping the script, why it's important, and the mentality you need to have before you step up to bat.

The vast majority of guys who have ever done cold approach only ever build a lukewarm skill set; they get to a place where they can express intent by complimenting girls and physically escalating, but they are always hounding girls for meetups, sex, dates, even just establishing contact. The constant pushiness and forcing things to happen not only stops working past a certain level, but it's also deleterious to your wellbeing.

For some reason, the idea of getting girls to chase you has almost gained a swamp creature or Yeti-like aura, as guys have heard this is possible, but have never seen it for themselves.

Flipping the script is the hallmark of actually being good with women, but it takes certain mindsets and techniques to be able to pull off effectively. It starts with understanding that YES, women DO chase and work to win over guys they're interested in. It's not demeaning or degrading or extra, it's exciting and fun for her to prove her worth to you.

Think of the last job you were hired for. You were hired on good faith that you would perform to the best of your ability and reflect well on yourself, your team, and the people that hired you. If you liked the job, you didn't take this pressure as an injunction to slack off. You were proud to prove yourself. You were excited to kick down the doors with your efforts and let all take notice of what you had to bring to the table.

No different here.

If she's interested in you truly, she's ready and willing to do the same.

She also knows that, should she fail to live up to expectations, either adjustments must be made on her part until the right conditions are met or you two go your separate ways amicably.

It's imperative to sit with the idea that people only value what they've worked for. Whether relationships, money, achievements, legacy, the fact is the same. If I handed you a law degree, not only would you probably never use it, but you also wouldn't think much of it. After all, it couldn't be of much value since I gave it to you so easily. Even with things that we were given for free, we only tend to value them when on the brink of losing them and having to battle to keep them around.

This principle is the same for her in this situation.

You want her to invest as much of herself as possible with you.

You want her maximum commitment and consistency, her highest effort.

All people, including women, flake from situations where the pain of risk is likely to exceed the pleasure of reward, AND where there are NO CONSEQUENCES to doing so.

If she loses nothing by flaking on you because she's invested very little to nothing, you should expect it to happen.

If the potential pain and uncertainty of seeing you again (ie. "he's a stranger", "it was a little weird", "what will my friends say?" seems to her greater than the benefits conferred by being with you, rest assured she'll find every means available to kill any attraction she had for you by backwards-rationalizing it away.

Having her work for your validation and approval, like in this kiss routine, turns a situation where she has nothing to lose by "closing the show" when it's all said and done into one where she's invested so much with you that if she DOESN'T have you, she is taking a BIG LOSS.

We would obviously initiate this routine once a girl has passed the social hook point and hit the sexual hook point, with "bambi eyes" to match. It works regardless of whether you've been heavily physical earlier or only slightly so.

When you see that it's time to kiss her, and that she wants it (again, "bambi eyes" is the indicator), you move in like you're about to kiss her...then play it off as brushing something off her cheek or out of her hair.

Go back to simply talking, as if nothing happened.

If she wasn't necessarily thinking of kissing you, she WILL be thinking about it then. If she was thinking about it, her mind will be running in OVERDRIVE, wondering about why you didn't kiss her. In either case, this gets her more engaged.

The second time you see that the time is right, you move your face close to hers just like the previous example, but before your lips touch, you playfully tease her about her desire and tell her to ask you if she can kiss you. I've done so along the lines of hovering my finger over her mouth after feigning to swoop in for a makeout and saying "wait...you didn't ask me yet, did you? How am I gonna kiss you if you didn't ask me to? You have to ask.... Shaka, can I kiss you/ can you kiss me?". As soon as she does exactly this, you playfully turn her request down. The key is PLAY. You two are playing. It's a romantically-charged teasing session that is amping up her desire for you exponentially.

The third time it comes up, you get her to ask again, and ONLY give her a small peck on the lips. You can also make out with her yet pull back right as she starts to use tongue and get into it more. The idea with this, as with all mixed signals behavior, is to drip validation, to drip her desired outcome in very small increments getting her working and more engaged, as opposed to flat-out handing yourself to her on a platter. It takes little skill to hand yourself to a woman on a platter, just the requisite courage to do so. It takes poise, self-control, self-assuredness and confidence to "serve yourself" in small doses to her, provided that she's complying and investing to your liking.

To add to the mental piece previously mentioned, in case you still have reservations about doing it, women LOVE this stuff. They DREAM of it. Women's favorite romantic novels are filled with characters who "drip themselves", satisfying her desire in minor doses and stoking her flame endlessly. Why not turn her experience with you into one that rivals her favorite stories, and give her a little piece of fantasy in everyday life?

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