Women Are NOT Men

As men, the majority of us choose women immediately based upon looks, eschewing any other considerations.

As soon as we see the physique and face we like, we're in love.

Fortunately, women don't work like us.

Whereas we men are more like a light switch that turns immediately on or off based on whether the girl arouses us physically, women are similar to a dimmer knob.

The more time she spends with you, the more of your personality she experiences, the more of your sense of humor, style, confidence she's inundated with, the more she likes you or is prone to like you.

She needs to see, feel, and experience the unfolding of you over a long-enough time frame for her to feel attraction.

She needs to experience the right behavioral cues from you in order to get aroused.

A great book that illustrates this is Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski.

Nagoski calls it "contextual desire" for women, as opposed to the "spontaneous desire" experienced by men.

The right man, in the right situation, with her in the right headspace and life space creates arousal and attraction.