When Starting At The End Is Backwards

There is a lot of talk about starting at the end of a journey in order to properly plan and execute.

This relates to embodying the thoughts, feelings, and actions of your ideal self who has already crossed the chasm.

It pertains to tapping into the wisdom of the aforementioned, in order to bring foresight and resolution to the problems that may exist ahead.

It means focusing on the fact that "a journey started is a journey completed", as long as you continue to march forward.

There is one spot where this does NOT hold up, though.

Especially in cold approach.

It's incredibly common to see guys just getting into this who want the EXACT ANSWERS to every situation; the EXACT RIGHT THING to do on dates; the EXACT WAY to not come off like a creep as soon as they start approaching.

What they want, while well-intentioned, is a shortcut to the process of becoming a man who is excellent with women. They want a few tips and tricks to put securely into place that will save them the heartache and effort of walking the usual path.

The thing is, the usual path is the ONLY path.

There is no other path.

You can't go from "guy who knows nothing" to "smooth ladies' man" by learning a couple secret tricks. It's similar to the business about "what pickup line can I use to make every girl obsessed with me?" Sounds a lot like "what one food can I cut out of my diet that will lead to super health?" or "what one exercise should I do (and no more than one!) to make me buff and big?" or "what one book can I read to make me intelligent and wise?"

It's much easier to hope that one line will solve all of your problems with women as opposed to GROWING and BECOMING a different man, a BETTER man altogether.

Why do guys do this?

Because the journey is HARD.

Even all caps doesn't really show the magnitude of what you have to go through, the continuous effort to improve, the constant testing and re-testing of microskills to add into your broad skill base, the patience, focus, and dedication to do these things.

I repeat, it is IMPOSSIBLE to skip the tough part of the journey, no matter how many thousands of shoddy approaches you cram into a week, or how much you look for a step-by-step method that eliminates the need for downtime, mistakes, and failures.

There ISN'T any method that does that. It DOESN'T EXIST.

This journey is one where you need to learn to TAME YOURSELF: your doubts, fears, impatience, inconsistency, catastrophic thinking, and even your euphoric expectations when things go according to plan.

First and foremost, it is about OVERCOMING who you are now to BECOME a hotter, sexier man that commands women's attraction, attention, and beyond.

Forget the "instant oatmeal" answers here. There is NO SUCH THING.

With all that said, answers do exist. You're not alone in your effort to learn and grow. Help is possible to receive. We, here at Attraction Institute, have gone through the pain, suffering, joy, and everything between in our own personal journeys in-field.

If you're alone without wings, or want to replace the wings that you've currently got, check out our flagship Whatsapp wing group by emailing us at attraction.institute.nyc@gmail.com for details.

If you'd like guidance from us, either mindset wise or technically focused, again shoot us an email at attraction.institute.nyc@gmail.com. We'd be more than happy to show you what programs we have available, provided you're a good fit for us and vice versa.

Keep approaching!