How To Banish Bad Luck While Approaching

As humans, our minds are programmed (unless re-programmed by us ourselves) to immersively imagine the absolute worst-case scenario when dealing with the unknown factors of a situation.

If you feel a slight stomach pain, it's easy for our minds to go to the thought of having a form of cancer that we haven't yet had detected.

If you haven't heard from your significant other for an unusually long period of time, it's easy to imagine that they've not only found someone else now, but they've quickly closed chapter with you and started another life with this other person.

If you've misplaced your wallet in your bedroom, likely your thoughts take you to dropping it somewhere on the street where thieves have already ransacked the money that was in it, or maybe even worse...somebody has stolen it straight out of your pocket.

No doubt about it, human beings are worst-case generating machines.

This also happens in cold approach with alarming regularity.

You imagine that if you go up to this woman that you fancy, she's not only going to spit in your face and call the cops, but that everyone around you two will see you "harassing" her and will jump to her defense, initiating an ass-kicking.

You ruminate on the "possibility" that should you say hello to that cute girl sitting on this yellow park bench, her boyfriend or father or male cousin or distant relative who lives thousands of miles away but happens to be in town this day for this specific occasion will see you try your thing, run up and bitch-slap you across the mouth. Oh, and this is happening RIGHT BEFORE you speak to her, you hadn't exactly said anything yet.

Once we see the tendency for our minds to take us places that are as unhelpful as they are improbable, now we can do something about it.

We can expect that our minds will catastrophize automatically, without much provocation, at the mere thought of approaching, of trying something new in set, and because we know this is a negative exaggeration, we can just move forward to do what we need to do.

We expect our minds to tell us nonsense in order to keep us "safe", and understanding this gives us the energy to blow past this and still approach, escalate, flirt, etc.

The more we experience our minds trying to talk us out of action, and we still go ahead and act, the stronger we become and the easier it is to see through the tactics our "survival mind" uses to keep us stuck.

Encountering situations that don't go our way can also be a game-changer for us. We see that, even though we failed to "get our way", what we feared did not come to pass. Granted, it was not something pleasant by any stretch of the imagination, but it was still less horrible than expected and we handled it easily with grace and poise. As you start to see that your mind either runs up details on things that never happen or exaggerates and overblows things that do happen, you take your power back. You become more and more FREE to ACT, which gives you endless chances to improve and gather experience, putting you on the upward spiral in terms of development.

This is, ultimately, the best any of us can wish for: to be FREE of any personal, mental barriers to improving, and giving ourselves the best chance to get as good as we can.

Sometimes, even knowing this truth, it can be hard for us to develop a rhythm of action without a little bit of an extra nudge and encouragement in the right direction. If you happen to be one of these guys who need some extra support, Attraction Institute is here for you with our newest book The Inner Game of Cold Approach. It reveals mindset tips and tricks, insights honed over 10+ years in field to get you started off on the right foot with your cold approach journey. Send us an email at attraction.institute.nyc@gmail.com for more details.