Hot Girls Are Lonely

It might seem crazy to say, but the hotter she is, the less options she has. The average guy looking at women will surmise that the most physically attractive women (women who either get paid for their looks or could do so) have more guys hounding them than other girls. It's at this point that we should differentiate between options and validation. Most guys are only good for validation, while others are worth making a choice to date.

If a beautiful girl walks by 12 men at once, how many of those men are skilled with women, actively growing, living life on their own terms, pushing the boundaries of what's possible? Maybe 1 or 2 at best. These are the only guys that are true options of a girl of that nature; all of the other guys who are unhappy, confused, sick, terrible with women and the like are NOT and cannot be considered options for this type of woman.

I don't like to rank girls numerically for looks as it can be demeaning but it helps us make the argument clearer. A girl who is a 6 can date a guy who is a 6, 6.5, 7, 7.5 and on up. A girl who is in the 8-10 range has very little wiggle room. She does not have the same amount of options as the "less attractive" girl. She sacrifices quantity for quality. However, what if the quality guys are too afraid to say anything to her? What if they believe that they need an extra million in the bank to get a girl like that? That means she has even less options and less men to look forward to.

Go out to a club or bar and see for yourself: the average man clamors about drunkenly hitting on the "unattractive" average girls but wouldn't dare risk his ego talking to girls attractive enough to intimidate him. How hot a man thinks a girl is is correlated directly to how much fear he has of speaking to her, usually. This, again, means that even qualified men remove themselves from the running out of fear that they won't measure up.

This point leads into a phenomenon we've all seen, where some model-looking girls walk around with the only guy brave enough to say anything to her. He might be a terrible catch overall but he had the guts to say something. Understanding this should put more fire into your intention to get better with the women you like most. The competition really is crowded at the bottom but lonely at the top.