Counter-Intuitive Lessons From The Field, Pt. 2- "Hot Girls" Are Average Girls

Most physically attractive girls aren't models.

Surprise, surprise.

They go to school, and get a job, or start businesses, like everyone else.

They work as lawyers, doctors, physical therapists, teachers, pet groomers, or any other normal occupation that exists under the sun.

The vast majority of girls that could get paid for their looks are filling out job applications or headed to a job that is quite unfulfilling but pays her bills. They're not waiting to find a guy to save them financially, either. They know if they don't make this crack, be it their business or career, they'll be in the outhouse.

The girl of your dreams has long, sleepless nights where she imagines everything going to hell and ending up homeless.

She scrimps and saves to buy a new car, or a new laptop, or a new fan because the tiny-ass apartment she lives in has no windows.

Your "million-dollar girl" probably is in deep for a couple thousand dollars, just due to unexpected emergencies and life happenings.

She is given to panic and worry when thrown into unfamiliar, unknown situations. She craves certainty, predictability, and routine to give her the illusion of safety, like we all do.

The girl of your dreams also has days when she wakes up and nitpicks at every area of her body; nose, ears, eyebrows, heels, knuckles...nothing is off-limits from her self-criticism.

I know...she looks perfect to you.

But SHE doesn't always think so, or even often.

The girl you think will demand the world from you is actually a simple girl. She just wants to be loved, appreciated, cherished, fulfilled in life. Like all of us.

The sooner you understand this, the sooner you stop aiming to use things to prop up your insecurities and just go talk to her.

Once you get that she is just an average, everyday girl, you can stop wasting time in your own head and treat her like it.