Best Flirt Course, Addendum

In this edition of Best Flirt Course, we look at 7 types of techniques that are integral to flirting and how they are used. Note that many of these tactics meld into one another; the sheer fact of using one might lead to you executing a "separate" one without necessarily meaning to. The blending of these ideas has a synergistic effect on your game, much like the beneficial properties of certain foods is enhanced when you take specific supplements.

Mixed signals: every compliment has a tease attached to it, and vice versa. This is the actual act of "flirting". Some teases can stand by themselves, but by the process of linking compliments with teases more often that not, you build suspense and intrigue in the interaction. Opt out of giving naked compliments, generic compliments, and complimenting early on as a way of "setting intent".

Ex. 1: Girl is wearing suit jacket on a night out, "nice jacket! you look like big boss chick...also kind of like a schoolteacher who got lost at a bar on her way home from dinner"

Ex. 2: Girl says she was raised in Brooklyn, "no wonder! I was getting a heavy artistic feel from you...by artistic, I meant fingerpainting and crayon scribbles"

Framing: interpreting things she says, does, or is as meaning she's horny and desperate, she's trying to impress you, she's trying to show that she's the right girl for you, she's trying to seduce you, she sees you as the perfect partner, she's trying to get into your pants, etc. Everything she says, does, or is, should fall into one of these, or similar, buckets of interpretation. Excellent to pair with cocky-funny lines.

Ex. 1: Girl asks you how far you live from the venue, "already?! I appreciate you wanting to get right to business and I do like assertiveness but, I prefer to get to know girls before doing any of that...who knows? maybe you'll end up getting lucky if you're patient..."

Ex. 2: Girl asks you what you do for work, "so you promise not to show up at my job pretending to be my wife of 5 years, right? I know the temptation will always be there to rush things, but you gotta keep calm and play it cool...trust yourself to do it the right way"

Takeaways: a playful, temporary, tentative rejection, for the purpose of finding out how bought in she is to you and the interaction. These are usually set up off of the back of a mixed signal statement or flirt. Different types indicate being in different phases on the interaction.

Ex. 1: Back turn off of me teasing her about being a Michigan girl, "I like cornfield girls, very down-to-earth and level-headed...but my cow tipping days are over! Maybe I should get out of here and find girls with a different definition of fun..."

Ex. 2: Mid-to-end range of the interaction, "I have to be real: I'm a lot to handle for many girls...girls just like you. I do like what we potentially have here, but I don't want you to get caught up in something a little out of your pay grade."

Qualification: challenging a girl through statement, story, or questions to live up to certain standards that you have. Also a great way to test her "buy-in".

Ex. 1: If she loves to eat healthy food, "Nothin' sexier than taking good care of your body...as long as you know how to achieve balance and enjoy life. 100% of your food is not twigs and leaves, right? You do know how to let your hair down?"

Ex. 2: If she's an avid traveler, "Being a cultured person makes everyone so much more interesting and understanding, it really allows people to develop themselves deeply...unless they're traveling around for Instagram photos and likes, seeing the same sites as everyone else. But I have a feeling that's not you, am I right?"

Compliance: getting her to speak and act in ways that make you more emotionally and logically relevant, synching her attraction for you to her logical brain by getting her to speak and act in special ways.

Ex. 1: Getting her to call me handsome off of a cocky-funny flirt, "You can admit it...I won't think you're a creep...say 'Shaka, I think you're handsome'..."

Ex. 2: Getting her to tell me 3 things she likes about me, besides my looks, "Besides the fact that I look delicious, what are 3 actual things you like about me?"

Ex. 3: Getting her to ask me to ask her out, "I would invite you out for a drink one time but you haven't asked me to. At least give yourself a chance, trust yourself a little..."

Cocky-funny: type of flirt that requires no dual statement, gets your intent across without supplication, and puts social pressure on you instead of on her. Great for early interactions, especially with girls who get paid or could get paid for their looks, but can also be spread throughout a set. Excellent for setting frames that get her to chase.

Ex. 1: Girl is sitting in the park, reading, "so you were just sitting here, pretending to read, crossing your fingers that a handsome, amazing guy would strike up a conversation with you...man, talk about manifesting what you want!"

Ex. 2: Girl says she's visiting your city, "I would ask you what you think about _______ guys, but I already know what you're gonna say, 'so handsome, so interesting'. Especially the guys wearing fleece vests and glasses (or whatever your own physical description is). It's ok, I won't think you're a creep if you admit it!"

Intrigue loops: engaging, emotionally relevant information that is incomplete and causes her to chase conversationally to bring it to a conclusion. Think conversational cliffhangers inspiring her to seek resolution. A form of mixed signals. You can create them off of information about her or about topics that you two are talking about.

Ex. 1: She lives in Boca Raton, Florida, "I guess what they say about Boca girls is true...". She asks what it is, "Forget it (smile), if I tell you you'll just agree anyways..."

Ex. 2: She's a lawyer by trade, "You know what I appreciate about you all...". She asks what, "You should already know...if you don't know, what's the point in me saying it (smile)..."