2 Years To See Results, How Do You Feel?

One of the most controversial things in cold approach is the acknowledgement of a learning curve before being rewarded with dates and sex.

Why is it controversial?

Because people don't like to wait for things to happen.

Human beings have always fallen on the impatient side of things. This isn't just true in modern times, it's always been true through human history. Rushing to harvest crops that are not ready, making haste in expecting fruit from trees not properly rooted, and every other related behavior that demonstrates how people take an adverse stance to the notion of time.

When I say it takes 2 years to get to a point where these things are even possible, it isn't a hard and fast 100% certainty. The time table for skill sets to come together USUALLY errs on the longer side, but absolutely there have been guys who have stumbled upon dates and sex early. Again, it needs to be said, yes it's possible, BUT NOT PROBABLE. The most probable outcome is that you will have to diligently work for a set period of time before seeing what you want to see happen.

Over-expecting results too early DESTROYS your chances of receiving them. The guy who goes out expecting to get laid easily his first time out exposes himself to the possibility of serious disappointment if it doesn't happen. If he continues to go out with over-expectation of results, he will reach the point sooner rather than later where he STOPS taking action because what he desires hasn't happened when he wanted it to. He will then BLAME cold approach or some other myriad of factors for why he has no girls in his bed yet. The problem isn't cold approach. HE IS HIS PROBLEM, specifically expecting way too much action too soon.

This becomes even more true when you think of a distinction such as social environments (bar ,club ,lounge) versus non-social environments (street, train, mall), where in social environments alcohol can, and often does, serve to bridge the gap between approaching and sex. Even more to the point, just the fact that cold approach (aptly titled "stranger approach" by my mentor) is you propositioning sex to A TOTAL STRANGER WHO HAS NO CLUE ABOUT YOU (who is designed by NATURE to mate with guys in and around her established social networks) should give you the impression that this is NOT going to be a walk-in-the-park. What you're attempting to do has you ALREADY starting off on the WRONG FOOT, out the gate, immediately, because you're going against a long-established pattern hardwired into human brains by evolution and nature itself. The odds are NOT in your favor to receive ANYTHING at all, let alone the dates and sex you so desire instantly.

Once this can be fully grasped and understood, embodied even, we can then make in-roads into applying willpower, consistency, and self-discipline in an area where most guys don't recognize the need for it and consequently, have little to show for their efforts. I cannot count the amount of guys over the last 17 years that I've spoken to about their cold approach journey who said that they were UNDERWHELMED at the amount of sex and dates they've had relative to the work that they've put in. The number of guys pleasantly surprised, whose expectations had been exceeded, are ALMOST NON-EXISTENT. That fact alone spoke to me, and it should mean something to any intelligent guy attempting to make cold approach work for them. DO NOT expect too much, ESPECIALLY early on. Play the "long game" here, it's your most sensible option.